Relationship and Happiness

Omadai Rajahlall
Dr. Mc Cormick
ENG 101
Blog # 5
Relationship and Happiness. Marriage.
Relationship is a key element of happiness in people’s lives, but they are the ones who should cultivate it into a healthy growth. The people nearest to us, such as spouses, parents and children are usually the source of our deepest anxieties, fears, unhappiness or pains. As well as, there is absolutely no dough they are indeed of joy, happiness, love, support, affirmation, comfort and guidance. Whys do people get married, even though they are aware that it is definitely not a smooth or an easy path? Well, the most famous answer to that is because they are in love with each other and cannot imagine being apart. They feel happy, worthwhile, and peaceful and pleasure being together. Also, marriage fills that empty gap of loneliness in their lives. Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong contract or commitment in a couple’s life. However, I believe that married people have to work really hard to maintain and harvest a healthy, happy and loving relationship. They should spend enough time together and even give each other some space when it is necessary. In order for a couple to maintain a healthy and happy relationship, they would have to learn to be patient, understanding, tolerant, honest and have good communication and cooperation among each other.
Marriage gives more meaning to our lives, and it is the essence to fill the empty gap of loneliness which we encounter in life. Having someone who deeply cares about us would make us feel loved and comfort which is a warm breath of happiness. The ability to love someone and receive love in return is an extraordinary happy and pleasurable feeling in a marriage. It is an open gate for the most memorable and exciting moments anyone could experience, such as intimate moments and in the path of starting and striving to build a life together. Even the experiences of loving and caring for each other may give us some beautiful memories to always cherish. Tal Ben Shahar states, “Having people about whom we care and who care about us to share our lives – intensifies our experience of meaning, consoles us in our pain, deepens our sense of delight in the world.” Everyone on earth has someone in their lives that keep them going and make their life worth living for, or give meaning to it. A companionship in our life is one of the best therapies for happiness in our daily lives. The fact of having someone who love and care for you, support you through your difficult times, who put joys in your life whenever you are feeling down and someone to experience and share the good and bad events with in our lives is one of the best thing we can ever have in our lives. The companionship in marriage gives people the opportunities to fulfill all their lonely time in life and someone by our side to grow old with. Being married gives us the opportunity to have someone who we can talk and listen to, or have all kinds of conversation and being able to share ideas with each other. Companionship in marriage also offers support and can be particularly important at times of trouble and stress. Marriage helps us to be more tolerant, unselfish, caring and loving.
I believe that marriages are suppose to be a relationship of a lifelong contract or commitment in people’s lives, and they have to work really hard to maintain that love and passion for each other during that period of time. When couples lose that interest for each other, they are heading toward a failure in their marriage which could be very stressful and cause them to be very unhappy. Almost every married couple who loves each other would eventually lose the passion for each other and that is when the distance would come between them. This is the state where the passion and love for each other are no longer exciting which cause a marriage to get into the category of becoming a failure. This is a very unhappy and uncomfortable state to be in. I believe that one of the main reasons why couples get into this category is because they are not spending quality time with each other. There is no longer any good communication and they let other things, such as work or outdoor activities, become a major distraction in between. They get so occupied with present activities or career that they don’t even realized that their relationship is at risk of becoming a failure. Tal Ben Shahar states, “While it is sometime necessary to forgo present benefit for the sake of failure goals, spending too much time living for the future will ultimately leads to the relationship’s failure.” (116). This explains the couples who spent too much time working and are abandoning the time for each other, hoping to ensure a secure and happy future. This is putting the relationship into a major risk for failing. This is very unhealthy in a marriage because the couple would get into a trap of wanting more out of their career and barely any time for each other. A married couple can prevent getting into this situation by putting each other as a first priority. They should always make time for each other and spend enough and quality time together. This will save the marriage and helps to maintain happiness in a couple’s relationship.